Busy.. BUsy... BUSy.... BUSY week

It's almost Christmas and everyone in town is busy preparing their presents and feast for Christmas...
Well, not for us... we do not have any decorations and the holiday spirit... Our religion doesn't celebrate Christmas because we do not believe that Christ was born in this time of year (P.S. To other religions please don't misunderstand)
Still.. we are preparing for my fathers and cousin's birthday because they were both born on December 21 and we decided to celebrate both birthdays.. But my father was against it... He doesn't like sharing it with another person... He isn't home this time because he is on another country working and he isn't going to be home until next year so, the idea of celebrating his birthday with him not around is a hurtful think for him or I think so.

My father always has a temper My mother was like under his control because he doesn't like someone go against his wishes. He was always strict and kinda manipulative.. Because he is always not around the house, he thinks me and brother are still kids that we couldn't do anything right. I still remember my older brother when he was still young, my father would tie him outside because he was home late and sometimes to the point he would not let my brother inside the house. Meanwhile, I on the other hand, didn't experience much torturing from him.. But i do remember when I ride a bicycle when I was 6 years old he shouted at me and chain me to the chair, and forbid me to eat supper ( I know it's kinda extreme but he is a discipliner kind of guy)

I used to hear stories from my mom that my dad was once an activist and was always running for his life when it was martial law here in Philippines.. He hid in the mountains and let his hair and beard grow so that no one will  recognize him.. He is the kind of person who uses force to solve things maybe that's the reason he handle his family this way. Now that I grow up he is still very strict and doesn't let me got to the pool with my friend,even my brother even though his 21 years old. Since I got depressed, he is learning to control his temper but his manipulative in nature is still there but my mom lecture him sometimes which is funny because she never do that before. Still, I'm kinda thankful that my father is like that because I am not like other teenagers who drinks, smokes, taking drugs and partying late at night without parents permission... When I go out, I always say to my parents where I'm going and who I am with.. I never drink nor smoke.. I always finish my homework before watching TV or using the internet., I'm happy this way.. My father just need a little adjustment now that we are all grown up.. Maybe that's why he always strict on us because he is afraid that we may not need him anymore..

Please be more kind to your parents.. they are just scared that they are not needed anymore when we make decisions on our own... Try making them understand that we need them as PARENTS not PARENTAL GUIDANCE...


Busy preparing for my the birthday's.. Hope my father understands.


TO ALL WHO CELEBRATE CHRISTMAS:

MERRY CHRISTMAS TO YOU ALL AND YOU HAVE A JOYOUS HOLIDAY